I had to drag out my big old folder of blog ideas and get cracking as I have a few dozen to write between now and the first of the month. Not only am I going on blog tour for a few weeks beginning November 26 to promote my latest release, I want to catch up on my own blog as I’m getting company for the holidays and don’t want to be behind and have to post things while they’re here. In fact, I hope to be completely pre-posted long before the turkey thaws. And it was while thinking about that I stumbled across a topic jotted down about moms and social media outlets.

Now, I’ll tell you a little secret about my mom. She doesn’t have internet (by choice), she doesn’t have a smart phone instead opting for a simple flip-type model (she just learned to text a few weeks ago), and she refuses any and all attempts at any of use purchasing an e-reader for her. So, as you can probably guess, she’s not on Facebook. But, she did do an interview about me for my website once. That was pretty fun. 🙂 But, most of the rest of my family is on Facebook.

When I first began in this business I had a regular profile page over on Facebook under my pen name. I struggled with that for a very long time. How many people to friend, who to friend, and when to cut back. I never had a personal profile as the real me so it was only inevitable my real family and friends migrated to my pen name page which posed some challenges. First I had to worry what my relatives might think of all the erotica writers dropping by and chatting naughty talk and then I had to worry about my personal business being posted, not that anyone would have done anything purposefully, but it was hard keeping the two mes separated.

Early this summer I do believe the social media platform for writers took a nose dive. Granted that’s my personal opinion, but I do believe the etiquette some writers were migrating to spoke of less than professional behavior and quite frankly I’d seen enough. I also began to have a sneaking suspicion social media wasn’t doing it for me in the sales department. It’s my own personal belief sales aren’t driven by bombarding your followers with purchase links. I think word of mouth, professional reviews, and good quality writing drives sales. It’s a long hard road, but eventually if you work hard enough things start to fall into place. So, it was with all this in mind I made the executive decision to pull back from social media. I graduated from a “profile” to a “fan page.” I also built a real me page for my real family and friends, thereby separating the two mes.

What did that accomplish? Well, a few things actually. It made my life easier as I now have my fan page linked to my twitter and kill two birds with one stone each and every time I post. My real fans like my fan page. And real fans are where real sales come from. That’s not to say a few of my real family and friends and fellow authors aren’t there, they are, but they are also fans. I no longer have the drama floating by my news feed every few minutes. And it can be quite dramatic at times. A simple fan page avoids all that, at least for me. Not to mention, there are tons of cool apps and features you can use on the fan page you can’t with the regular profile, sales links and such. And my family and friends can now talk about my personal life because it’s hidden from professional me.

Life is easier, less stressful now, and I’m happier.

If you’re a writer feeling the pressure of the drama, I highly suggest the fan page alternative and keeping your personal life and professional life in separate realms.

Thanks so much for having me here today and readers have a realmantic day!

Lila Munro currently resides on the coast of North Carolina with her husband and their two four-legged kids. She’s a military wife with an empty nest and takes much of her inspiration for her heroes from the marines she’s lived around for the past fifteen years. Coining the term realmantica, she strives to produce quality romance in a realistic setting. Her genre of choice is contemporary romance that spans everything from the sensual to BDSM and ménage. When she’s not writing, she enjoys reading everything she can get her hands on, trips to the museum and aquarium, taking field research trips, and soaking up the sun on the nearby beaches. Her works include The Executive Officer’s WifeBound By TrustDestiny’s FireSalvationThree for Keeps, the Force Recon seriesthe Slower Lower series,and the Identity seriesShe’s a member in good standing of RWA and Passionate Ink. Currently she’s working on sequels to several series to be released throughout 2012-2013 and has a brand new line scheduled for winter 2012-13. Ms. Munro loves to hear from her readers and can be found at her Realmantics Blog

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. I could only imagine how difficult it would be to juggle both personal and professional lives. I think that is a wonderful idea for authors. I, honestly, would rather like a fan page than friend someone because I have noticed the difference in the page layout also. I hope you have a happy holiday!
    Thank you for sharing, Lila! 🙂

  2. Hi Tina! Thanks for stopping by and that’s reaffirming to know you’re a reader who likes the fan page option to find their favorite writers. 🙂 You have happy holidays as well!

  3. I did the same thing. I have a fan page in my pen name and a separate personal profile in my real name. I did this to keep information about my young daughter private more than any other reason. It has worked well so far, but I have to remind myself of my pen name sometimes when I’m connecting with people as an author. Best of luck with your future blog posts! I look forward to reading more about you.

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